I just have to say that I adore the swing community here in San Diego. When I first went to a dance here a couple of years ago I was a little put off by the folk, but a lot of that had to do with my own limitations to meeting new people. I'm lucky that I was able to see this limitation and then grow from there.
What I was able to get past was that it would be my actions and attitude that created my time there. When I went the first time, I was by myself and very quiet. I acted like the interactions needed to look a certain way and that I needed to be treated a certain way for me to extend myself to others. It was quite clear that my style wasn't exactly inviting. So, the next time I went many months later, I told myself that I would create a great time for myself no matter what I thought of the other people...and I introduced myself to others, asked guys to dance and magically it was all good. I see that a lot actually, the more I extend myself the better my interactions get.
Yesterday was particularly fun when I wasn't feeling up to dancing due to a headache and I got two text messages from swing friends advising me to come out. Then, when I got there, everyone was just so happy to see me. I felt very connected and loved by my community. Lots of hugs, hellos, conversations, and of course dancing.